Who’s That Lady?
by Dawn Ellinwood

May is the month that we celebrate Mothers. So I ask you to really look: do you celebrate your Mother? Or do you absent mindedly buy a card, stick a stamp on it and send flowers claiming you have a great relationship with your mother?

Mothers are our first relationships and how we relate to them shapes all of our relationships in life. How often do we  remain checked out in our “important” relationships? Inside of coaching we work with our clients to look at what beliefs and personal realities we live from that limit the relationships we have. With coaching you will find the courage to complete all of the upsets and limits that you create.

Take a moment and look at what thoughts run through your head when you hear your mother’s voice? There is a filter that you listen to everything through and this filter takes you away from what is really being said. This filter is created by broken promises, upsets we have, things we are hiding, and things we don’t say. 

With my Mom the thought I carried around was “What does she want from me?” and “Now what?” Every time I talked with my Mom I was listening for “What does she want from me?” I missed out on a lot of great conversations. I looked at how so much of my life I spent avoiding and hiding the characteristics I saw in my Mom so that I wouldn’t be like her. With coaching I took action and apologized for the times I had given up on our relationship. I cleaned up the upsets that I had been dragging around and I took on getting to know my Mom for the woman she is -- not my perception of her in the role of “Mother”. An amazing thing happened! I really started to see what a great Mom I had. She was there all along. I just didn’t want to look!

Take a piece of paper and write down the first thought that crosses your mind when you think of your mother.  Then look at what are the things you have been carrying around that you need to get complete with your Mom. Next start a Thank you letter to your Mom and start with Thank you for giving me my life. Then start thinking of all the things you are thankful for that your Mom has done for you. As you get more and more present to who your Mom is you will be amazed at how much you have overlooked.

So this year do something real for the woman you first fell in love with, call her or visit her and read your thank your letter to her. Then do something real for yourself and sign up for coaching or some other program that will make a difference for you and your family.