Love & Relationships

1. If you can find happiness without someone else in the picture. Once you have achieved that happiness, you can welcome others into your happiness. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
2. Did your prince turn into a frog, just because he did something you don't like? Love your frog. Kiss him and he'll turn back into that prince! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
3. One of the things that make you distinct from others is the way you leave people. The question worth asking is this: Are they left bigger or smaller than when you found them? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
4. Suffering is optional! The choice is yours. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
5. What you are not saying and what you withhold runs your entire life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
6. Your inner pain is caused by your willingness to suppress your expression of love for someone or something. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
7. My love you have; my respect you have to gain! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
8. You never know love until you surrender to it. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
9. When we build walls around us to protect ourselves from hurt, they also keep happiness out. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
10. Our relationships must be taken care of like flowers in a pot. Effort, love and care are needed to make the flowers grow healthy and show their beauty. If we don't nurture our relationships as we would flowers, in the very near future we will be spending our time weeding. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
11. It took me a long time to get this one. I can't be right and effective at the same time. Neither can you. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
12. Look at your life and see where you are giving up being effective for a small token of being right! If you are honest with yourself you can see what I mean. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
13. Love shows up in our lives in many different forms and shapes... loving ourselves, loving others, loving things, places, concepts and loving life itself. What stops you from loving fully? The best place to look for the answer is when, where and how you stopped loving yourself! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
14. You might have several degrees and many masterful skills, but you will never get mastery in living life. Growth in life begins with developing mastery in loving life! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
15. Make your life about others and your life will work. Develop your heart and mind to find a way to make a difference and serve others, and you will live a life of fulfillment and satisfaction. Life all about "YOU" is empty and boring! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
16. You will never, ever, ever get exactly what you want from your partner! Men are all frogs, ladies!!! We need a kiss from our princess to become a prince. Love your partner unconditionally and keep kissing him to show him you love him, even if he doesn't quite fit the picture of what you want him to be. Stand back and watch your frog turn into a prince!! Until he does something stupid again... Then repeat the process. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
17. In this great time of celebration of a great man and a great prophet "Jesus Christ" let's remember one of his biggest and most powerful values he preached. That was "forgiveness." Let go of resentments, regrets and hate to open your heart to light, forgiveness and love. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
18. If you don't love and respect yourself no one else will. You treat yourself well and others will not dare to treat you poorly. If they do, let them know immediately that their behavior is not acceptable, and if they want to be in relationship with you, personally or professionally, they need to treat you with the respect that you deserve and demand. If they are not willing to do that, the price will be no relationship with you. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
19. Without love there is nothing but loneliness ...with ourselves, with others and even with what we do. Bring love and passion to who you are, who you are with and what you do, and you will maintain your happiness one day at a time. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
20. Don't make it hard for people to find you and to love you. Go out there and help them to love you more...that is more fun! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
21. Nothing is more painful and wasteful than not expressing your love to someone or to something you really care about. Sometimes we live with the fantasy of there is always tomorrow. The world is full of those regretful ones. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
22. Loving truly is to love unconditionally, the way they are and specially the way they are not! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
23. Many of us have a misdirected and polluted understanding of what love is... If we look at our view of love deeply and objectively we can see how many entitlements and expectations are at play. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
24. The other side of getting hurt in relationships, the opposite side is; we know we are alive; at least we are not numb, we still can feel... ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
25. I can speak for myself that in many heated situations I have saved my grace by continually reminding myself about my commitments to the matter at hand and people involved... it is hard to do, but considering alternatives most of the time, I have chosen my commitments first. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh